In this crazy world we live in, it’s often hard to know where you stand. The road of life is never steady, and we can rarely see very far down it. This has never been more true than today. With the job market uncertain and cultures rapidly shifting there is very little that anyone can hope to rely on. I mean, college degrees no longer offer any guarantee of a job! And, while people don’t blame themselves, seeing as how everyone is having these difficulties, it can still put a dent in your self-esteem. But I have the remedy for all these potential woes! Just remember:
WHO YOU ARE is (vastly) more important than WHAT YOU HAVE.
To clarify, WHAT YOU HAVE means what you have accomplished, achieved, earned, etc. as well as what you own. It means money, of course, but you can also have (or not have) the respect of others, a healthy physical body, love, a purpose to your life etc. But WHAT YOU HAVE DOESN’T MATTER, because all of those things can be lost. And when/if they are lost it will leave you wondering what you’re worth, if that is the means by which you define yourself.
In contrast WHO YOU ARE is something that can never be taken from you without your cooperation, regardless of circumstances. If you are a loving person, you will be loving if you are poor or rich, healthy or sick. If you are a righteous person, you will always do the right thing. If you are a courageous person, you will be brave, regardless of whether you’re facing an enemy army or terminal illness. The circumstances don’t matter IT’S HOW YOU RESPOND TO CIRCUMSTANCES that shows your true quality.
What you have can be taken from you in a blink of an eye, and if you don’t know who you are (or if you think that you are the things you have) you will find yourself in despair. I have heard many stories of financially wealthy people who build their fortune, only to loose it all in unfortunate circumstance. Often they just get back on their feet and EARN THEIR FORTUNE BACK AGAIN. It’s because successful is something that they are, not something that they have. I bet if you threw Richard Branson out on the streets PENNILESS AND NAKED he would be a billionaire again in just a few years! It’s because that is who he is at the core of his being. And like I said, WHO YOU ARE is something that cannot be easily lost.
So discover, or better yet CHOOSE, who you are. Pick a one (or a couple if you’re ambitious) virtuous qualities by which to live your life, (Are you: LOVING? DISCIPLINED? MOTIVATED? RESOURCEFUL? COURAGEOUS? CREATIVE? SPONTANEOUS? COMPASSIONATE? CONSIDERATE? UNSTOPPABLE?!) and start living your life by that quality NOW!
For me I chose DISCIPLINED recently. Now, whenever I am considering being lazy and ignoring something I should do, I remember WHO I AM. I am ONE WHO VALUES AND EMBODIES DISCIPLINE, regardless of the circumstances (including how I’m feeling that day). Discipline has always been a quality that I’ve wanted to associate with, but each person is unique in what they bring to this world and to the lives of those around them. I wonder…
What virtue will you choose to embody?