This is something I learned from my good friend Tony Robbins.
I seem to talk a lot in this blog about BELIEFS, and for good reason, they DEFINE OUR REALITY. But why do they define our reality? It is because they define our FOCUS. For every situation there are COUNTLESS interpretations of how that situation could be significant or insignificant, or anything in between. How do we decide how to interpret something? Well, IT ALL DEPENDS ON WHAT WE FOCUS ON.
In a relationship with any other human being, do you focus on the BAD or the GOOD? That will drastically effect how to perceive and feel about that person. When you go to a job interview do you focus on how NERVOUS you are or how EXCITED you are? The EXACT SAME STUATION can look differently to the EXACT SAME PERSON, depending on where they hone their focus. When it comes to eating do you focus on your HEALTH or the TASTE? Different focus can lead to different physical realities.
Control your focus, and you control your life.