Tag: relationships

Women’s test in life is material. Men’s test in life is women.

This message goes out to the women. If you want men to act more whatever, start looking for that in men. These days women (seem to) care about money, power, and good looks, so this is what men strive for. If women made it clear that instead they were looking for GREAT CHARACTER then trust me men would begin to develop great character. Men will develop what is necessary to attract their mate, that is how we are programmed.

On a personal level, women should figure out what they NEED from a guy, versus what they want. Of course you WANT your man to be wealthy, powerful and good looking, but don’t you NEED him to be respectful, loving, and courteous? (Or whatever personality traits that YOU personally need in a life partner?) I got this tidbit of philosophy from the awesome comedian Dave Chapelle. Check out this clip from his standup which is both funny AND enlightening.

 

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FOCUS = REALITY

This is something I learned from my good friend Tony Robbins.

I seem to talk a lot in this blog about BELIEFS, and for good reason, they DEFINE OUR REALITY. But why do they define our reality? It is because they define our FOCUS. For every situation there are COUNTLESS interpretations of how that situation could be significant or insignificant, or anything in between. How do we decide how to interpret something? Well, IT ALL DEPENDS ON WHAT WE FOCUS ON.

In a relationship with any other human being, do you focus on the BAD or the GOOD? That will drastically effect how to perceive and feel about that person. When you go to a job interview do you focus on how NERVOUS you are or how EXCITED you are? The EXACT SAME STUATION can look differently to the EXACT SAME PERSON, depending on where they hone their focus. When it comes to eating do you focus on your HEALTH or the TASTE? Different focus can lead to different physical realities.

Control your focus, and you control your life.

~Jones

The DARK SIDE OF LOVE and why MARRIAGE IS SO IMPORTANT

I almost published this on Valentine’s day and then I thought… THAT’S KINDA DARK. But it’s all for the greater good. I shall explain…

We all have a dark side to us. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, as it exists as a product of our environment, yet it is OUR BURDEN to carry. Some people have it worse, for others it’s smaller things perhaps, but there are aspects to our personality that we are not comfortable with. This could be ANGER, FEAR, JEALOUSY, HATRED, SADNESS, or any other painful combination of complicated emotions and genetic predispositions. Perhaps your mother had a nasty temper and now so do you. It’s not your fault, these behaviors were basically brainwashed into you before your brain had physically developed to a point where you could even hope begin to consciously regulate your mind.

This DARK SIDE surfaces when it does, and it’s not pretty. For most of our lives we yell at our parents and siblings, maybe close friends, people that we know will never leave us. Then the DARK SIDE flares up at our significant others, and usually the DARK SIDE CONQUERS and the relation ends in tears. But then one day, YOU FIND YOUR SOULMATE and then you marry her/him. What that basically means is…

YOU’RE STUCK TOGETHER FOR ALL ETERNITY!!

Well… supposedly, but nobody takes marriage seriously anymore and so it looses its SACRED POWER. But, IF YOUR HEART IS TRUE and you uphold the vows you make, then that means that you are bound together forever. Now here’s where the DARK SIDE comes in…

Now you have someone, who you can face the dark side with and, MOST IMPORTANTLY, for. It is your responsibility, as a married person, to COMBAT THE EVIL that lurks in your brains and that the devils’ whispers in your ears! It will be an arduous journey, and most wont dare to tread that road. But my advice to those that do would be:

Foster a powerful spirit by FINDING JOY in your CHALLENGES and GROWTH.

~Jones